Hibernation

Hibernation

I wrote this essay five days before my mother died on Christmas morning. I was with her through her last hours and the moment of her death, a profound experience. I thank you so much for your comments as I have written about waiting for this moment, which gave me...
Blurry Vision

Blurry Vision

Blur (adjective) · make or become less clear or less distinct · a thing that can’t be seen or heard clearly  I live in a blur these days; literally and figuratively. Figuratively, it comes from spending time with my mother. It’s often unclear what she can see and...
The Secret Garden Diorama

The Secret Garden Diorama

“If you look the right way, you can see that the whole world is a garden.” Frances Hodgson Burnett, The Secret Garden.             My mother has descended another level down the steep staircase that is dementia. These days it is uncertain she knows who I am, yet as...
Ethic of Care

Ethic of Care

Entering the cavernous industrial space situated a block from the Brooklyn waterfront, unlike other fashions shows I’ve attended, I’m greeted by tables groaning with woven baskets filled generously with bread, fresh vegetables, empanadas and a sweet cookie. There are...
Seven Year Itch

Seven Year Itch

Last week the Accidental Icon Project turned seven. I can’t help but think of the term “seven-year itch” because I have one. The term, introduced in 1955 when I was two, came from a film based on a play starring Marilyn Monroe and Tom Ewell. In keeping with my...
Hurry Up and Slow Down  

Hurry Up and Slow Down  

In recent weeks, I’ve been feeling like the work in our new house has been going so very slow. We are working our way from the outside in, getting the things that require pleasant weather to be done first. So we’re repairing our front stoop and walkway and putting in...